The strength to accept, the acumen to adjust, the bravery to move forward.

There are similar expressions across cultures. For example, the French might say, “C’est la vie.” In the Serenity Prayer, it states, “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Shikata ga nai somewhat mirrors the Serenity Prayer and closely aligns with gaman or the act of endurance and perseverance.

Many of us tend to complain or let negative experiences continue to bother us and prolong the situation, even if there’s nothing we can do to reverse the outcome. We focus on how we want things to be, rather than moving on from the situation by making the most of the future ahead. Yes, there are times when you should persevere and try to mend the problem. Still, if there isn’t anything that is within your control, it’s more productive to move on and improve the current situation with other solutions to improve your conditions.

Shikata ga nai can also be tied to the concept of mindfulness. There will be both positive and negative moments in our lives. Embrace it by living in the moment. If you can change the situation and feel better by transforming it, then you should take corrective action. However, there are times when there is nothing you can do to reverse the current situation.

For example, a tragic natural disaster or the passing of a loved one are two situations where it could be challenging to move on. Yes, it’s important to mentally and emotionally heal from those difficult experiences, but there will be a time when shikata ga nai can transform your life and future. Pay honor to the cherished moments that you have lost and focus on your recovery. As with the Serenity Prayer, it may take time to “know the difference”; however, trust in yourself and practice gaman by developing your patience, critical thinking, and a positive outlook on life.

Storm snapped the old branch,
but the tree does not complain —
it leans toward the light.