Surviving your deepest wounds can produce the most beautiful scars.

While kintsugi is not a true philosophy, this ancient art form from the 15th century has become a symbol of embracing one’s flaws and accepting them as part of life. Like scars that you might have developed after an unexpected incident, the cracks lacquered in the powdered gold symbolize fragility, strength, and beauty. The lacquer comes from the poisonous sap of the urushi tree (toxiodendron vernicifluum). Once a cup of sap is extracted from the tree, it is cut down, and it takes 10 years for new trees to mature before they can be tapped for sap, making urushi lacquer and the repair even more precious.

Kintsugi brings attention to the cracks and honors the damage and broken areas with gold, making it more valuable, resilient, and unique. As we go through our lives, we will encounter times when our dreams or lives will be shattered. It may be extremely difficult, but the practice of Kintsugi reminds us of our resilience and inner beauty.

When one feels a sense of shame, self-condemnation, pain, or hurt that requires healing, stop and consider the practice of kintsugi. While going through the mending process, accept and embrace your imperfections or harmful experiences. They are a part of who you are, and by going through the mending process, you will become more resilient and beautiful. Begin by reframing these “scars” as opportunities for growth and discovery. Own your “scars” as they are now a part of you. Learn from these experiences and find ways to transform your life without forgetting the past. In essence, find meaning, purpose, and resilience in the face of adversity. Your scars are beauty marks that tell a unique story that only you can be proud of.

Shattered, I knelt down —
now each fracture holds bright gold.
I’m whole, grand and strong.