Life’s safety net—catching us when we fall and lifting us when we need support.

For hundreds of years, the people of Okinawa have developed and embraced social support groups called moai. They typically begin at an early age during childhood and consist of small groups of individuals who provide social, spiritual, physical, mental, and financial support. These groups often become lifelong friends, and some believe this is a significant factor contributing to the longevity of Okinawans – Okinawa holds one of the highest densities of centenarians (people aged 100 and above) in the world. Although Western culture does not have an equivalent to moai, we can still benefit from the concept and its principles.

You may have close friends that you’ve known since childhood who share similar values. If you don’t already do so, set up some time (even just a few minutes for coffee) to connect regularly. Focus on building stronger social connections and mutual support by sharing interests, passions, career interests/challenges, recreational activities, life moments, etc. The goal of moai is not just to share your personal stories, but to support others and foster a sense of true community.

Perhaps you’ve lost contact with old friends over time, and you’re now living in different states or countries. With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever to establish your very own virtual moai. Find a convenient time for a handful of close friends to connect and add it to everyone’s calendar. Feel free to include anyone new who may also share similar values and might be looking for their moai. Over time, these friendships of your inner circle can help you get through some of the most challenging and memorable moments of your life.

A few tips to build your very own moai: Find people who see value in community and connections. Be yourself, but also be kind, caring, and open with no judgment. And probably the most difficult, do your best to maintain a regular schedule regardless of the number of attendees. Enjoy your moai – providing support with unconditional love and compassion.

Storms pass overhead,
still, we light our lamps and sit —
your silence is safe.